"Yes, I'm the one. I have had so many excuses for him mistreating me. The fact that a woman would give you her all, only for you to throw it away if the baby mama so much as wishes it.rather than feeling sorry for these future women.correct your issues before involving them. I hope that my website can help condense the wide amount of body language information available and allow you to make full use of it in your daily life. I see a picture of him , her and his daughter cutting a babyshoer cake to celebrate a baby . He has his ex or is it his ex. He stays in frequent contact with her. Additional troubleshooting information here. Wooo, some you ladies need to learn the game, y'all losing. My situation is different, I left my daughter's father when I was pregnant. A lot of men find that Mama is a better alternative to nicknames like Baby, Babe, or Sweetie. 6 years ago. she would have had to show respect for her man just like she should now for you. The thing is I tell him I miss my family and him but he never responds back yet when we go out he pays for everything for both of us but we don't talk much, I will admit that I'm kinda scared to talk to him. Honestly, you just need to be single for a while, finish school, and work on yourself and your child. Same. Roommate Doesnt Want My Boyfriend Coming Over? My boyfriend and I've been together for a year now, I dnt have any problem with him having kids. Well heres my story me and my kids dad had been together since i was 16 and he was 19 at the time he had a baby on the way me n baby mama went back n forth for a while I'm older and knw exactly why we went back n forth considering I had children of my own with him 4 years later into our relationship well after I first child we were perfect then he got shot I nursed him back to health then I got pregnant again after the second baby we never had time to rekindle our love cuz I was too busy working n being a mom our kids are 4 and going on 3 we have been broken up for 2 years now messing around on n off well a girl he started working with before we ended happens to be his girlfriend now they been together going on two years she swears they did nothing while we were together I find it hard to believe tho he's putting her through so much and me because he wont just let me go I wasted 7 years of my life with him n finally he's ready to move all the way on with her because she will give him whatever he desires even if loosing self respect such as prostitution I can't make this up but we tried to get back together pointless of times bit it never works then he winds back up over there with her well he's on my blocklist now for hurting my feelings for the last time saying hes just gona marry her so just say **** him because hes moved out of town now to try to get his life together so shes won't now as she thinks can't help but wonder if this is a repeat from us in the beginning expect I dont think I ever got a fair shot at this love thing now i dont know what love really is anymore and I'm tired of it hurting me idk if it hurta him as bad or if how could he really love her but just wanted his family back smh its so frustrating that I cry sometimes because i been let him go n was moving on n then he knows how to get me back n then doesnt want me when i want him but wants me when I dont want him its just crazy meanwhile I can't believe i have to find a man to love me n my kids as his whole he think he has it all figured out smh I will never understand how logic but she ca. That's my entire time with her boiled down into one reflex of feeling like I was an atm. However he still talks to her and they seem close. And probably always will be. advice and career trends - and MadameNoire provides all of that. Let him go. Plain and simple. Whenever you get called mom, guy's are insinuating that you're treating them like their mom does. Talk to him about it. Baby mom's are psychotic, that is my conclusion after my hellish weekend due to my own drama. My selfishness and taking her for granted pushed her away. So, I would therefore encourage him about the situation. Then he knocked 2 women up: one didn't keep the baby; the other said if he'd be there to help her she'd keep the baby (he forwarded the messages to me including the pic of the pregnancy test she text him). He seeks my approval because I set the standard. What does it take to stop running into these types of people? 1 in his romantic life, which doesnt seem to be the case right now. If he doesn't do it, let him go.hard as it may be you will be better off not having to share someone. Babe. I don't know what to do. I think it probably has to do with me being a very old fashioned family oriented man, I would love nothing more than to see our family put back together and actually work out. It may have been a silly pet name to call you after a couple beers. I and my boyfriend rekindled and we are back together. Just because that's the kind of person he is. I don't what his problem is. I'm trying to move on, but its hard. Best thing you can do is end it and walk away. My thing is, if I wanted my daughters father I could VERY WELL have him! This is a clear signal that he's really into you, wants a relationship, and is showing it by calling you baby. Take it from a man. Hell I even take care of the 2 kids she had wit my alleged friend! Can a 40 year old woman date a 23 year old guy? Long story short I end up coming home Monday , and something tells me to go on Facebook and her page. they are at the point where its time to pick schools and he is trying to get it taken care of (and include me since we may have his daugter primarily in the fall) but ive never met bm and dont care to. He was selfish and mean and I felt so alone but i just wanted my son to have his father and I knew he wouldn't be around unless I took care of him. You're already hurting and it's only going to get worse. Me and my baby mama have been separated for close to 1 yr n half our son is 2. I would have to say that his baby mama and kid(s) is a package deal to a certain extent because you would have to put up with her for as long as you are with him. Dam, Jasmine. But when its common for the woman to text at all times of the night, it shows a lack of respect for your relationship on her part, and a lack of respect on his part as well for not drawing a line. But why what did she do so bad for you to feel this way? OK my baby daddy are in a relationship his other BM keeps commenting on his pictures n statutes. Im sure he doesnt mean to offend you and will stop using the term if you ask him to. In my experience, it's still a good nickname no matter how many times you've heard it. when a man have a kid(s) with his ex(s) they are a package deal.if u want to be with him, u have to be supportive n understanding and don't stress him out cuz he is not giving u enough time.this can lead to fights n eventually a break up. The love of your life is still sleeping with his Baby Mama. As far as love goes I love him to the degree that my daughter loves him and he's important to her so since I love her I care about him. This is not a good way to start anything with a cheater! Nice try though as I told the other chic. Log in to reply. Any advice or comments? He's Making It Clear He Wants Children with You. I know that men dont tell their baby mom's or ex's anything, just let them be, try to be nice or civil for the kids, but sometimes these women need to get it through their brains that its over. Its been almost 3yrs and i still havent met my boyfriends BM. During 1st couple years was on and off with my bby daddy, after we realised were better going our separate ways to avoid arguments sake ect. but then he made another girl pregnant, and has chosen me over her. DO NOT GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS! I know its not always easy to bring up something like this, especially if he clearly likes calling you this name and it makes him happy. You can read more about me and my website here. Hearts and Lattes. Yes and no, in mature relationships mom and dad get along for their child. Question similar to this, my partner and I have been together for over a year, I fit the role of step father for her daughter (clothe, food, bills, school runs, fun stuff etc.). He also told me at the beginning of February that he didn't want to have another kid, which was a deal breaker for me when we started dating because he knew I wanted more, but that he couldn't take care of the ones he has so this was why he changed his mind. At this point, I believe in the statement "Things get worse before they get better". Depending on how the relationship ended you can still be great friends, both involved parents, both civil enough to talk about kids issues, or still friends enough to have a quick chat once in a while, but that doesn't mean you still love her or want her back. The house is 5 minutes from where he lives with his mom and in the same neighborhood as his sister. I tell him, "Either call me my name, M's momma, or just don't say shit at all. I would never date a guy with a baby mama. But I'm getting to a point where I've started to feel disrespected. Xper 5 Age: 27. Yeah, something definitely is funny about that. Your bm had a profound effect on you. What make her think she's the real one when she's the stupid side chick.. nooo class at all. Ask for FREE. Trust me its a hard pill to swallow regardless of which end of it youre on. This is one of the biggest signs he's using you to get over his ex. Now he and I dont even speak not even related to the kids he speaks to me by calling our kids phone he blocked me from all communication to him he told me I am sorry for leading you on when he said this I was mad Because he and I had nothing going on. our son is a month now but we.broke up Aug 17 and.didnt stop having sex until October while he was with his ex girlfriend/new fiancee..he left me for his ex..now after.we had our son we.doing so parenting he wants.to have sex. III. After that i change dramatically and fell even more in love with her but she left me for another guy and lied about it. I was in a position where I supported him and always made sure he was there for them. If she starts to degrade you and get out of hand tell her exactly how you feel sternly, because she will try to degrade you sooner or later due to jealousy. I do feel you on this situation. Its hard to sever ties because we have a kid. He thinks he's always right. Many other cultures are very accommodating of male infidelity. Understand and keep this in the forefront of your mindit's not about you or your relationship with your man. Oh and women, feel free also to give your advice/opinion. But now it's come to a point where I love her soo much that I actually hate her!! I have to make up in my mind that Im not dealing with his drama. He doesn't see it the same. have him smh I pretty sure thats what the first baby mama said bout me too before she officially moved on. Is this for real?" Reply. And we have been together for 5 yrs. It was a hot mess but I made sure he heard my take on all this because he barely spend s time with his kids and I dont nag him about it kids will learn one way or the other who their parent is down the line but Im just so fed up I dont know if all this has to do with the stupidness that happen because if it does its so ridicuous all because hes married. Well she sure did drop the tea , I end up asking him , and he never denied it , but he never said anything either. I wanted him to get help with substance abuse. (I dont recommend that girlfriends try and contact or interact with the co-parents unless its about the well-being of the child. Usually it is a term of endearment for guys that go out a lot and see beautiful women, I imagine a Latino man says it maybe but probably not a white guy. Hi there Catharine! It's not fricken normal, everything else in our relationship is perfect, he's loving, caring, romantic, I am the complete opposite of that "woman" I work, look after myself, I'm supportive and caring, yet this continues to happen, I just don't understand it! He also has his own issues with keeping a job, marijuana, and adulting (but definitely is capable and always holds it down with me). If your boyfriend is confident, charming, and persuasive, you might think you've hit the jackpot. He has too much to deal with and is putting her feelings ahead of yours. And i always gave in because i love him. Remember that communication is essential to . . So, what does it mean when a guy calls you mama? But he tried to tel me I set him up wow I said to him. They are a couple guys in school and when they found out I had a daughter they said oh no , I am too young to be taking care of a child that ain't mine I said uh I wasn't even thinking that's far I thought we were friends and that's the end of that lol. But when I bring it up to him it's a argument.. Anyways, Last night when I had told him Good night a few hours later I got a text (that I later woke up to) saying, "Night baby mama" I'm not sure how to react to this because 1. we don't have a child together. I don't know if you are talking to me but I didn't say anything that wasn't true. Today we talk to two women to hear about their crazy baby mama stories -- women who have been manipulated, schemed, and plotted against simply . And he doesnt help financially. I couldn't think of anything worse than getting back with my ex, even the thought of sex with them again repulses me, but I love my kids and deeply care about their other parent who gave me my children.. No other feelings left there. no reasons. If your eyes and ears are telling you that things between your man and his "baby mama" are not over and done, then no matter what he's telling you, you know what the truth is. July 2, 2019 at 9:56 pm 2. Anna Perry. No matter what, the communication must stay open. She said they were just friends and I never caught her cheating but why she gotta lie. You don't need to be someone's hidden secret. Of course, its not the only way to show that hes committed to you, but its a good start! He also calls me sweetie and my love but would never call his daughter those things. You should be ashamed of yourself. Spanish term. She Shouldn't Be Texting or Calling Him at Inappropriate Times. I have been playing both roles as mother and father for the past 16 years taking the responsibility financially, physically, and emotionally. He spent all last week at my house and of course we are physically attracted to each other so we have been having sex the whole time. For me, I don't think my boyfriend is "in love" with the mother of his children but he does have love for her and care for her for the simple fact she's the mother of his two kids. Its only gonna be drama. He's not a very social person through text so we really don't talk as often as I would like. duckling. Heres How to Tell Your Roommate to Clean the Bathroom! Phone convos? This is especially true in the sense that your co-parent, if not on good terms with you,and in some cases, still in love with you, could be a major impediment to future relationships. Find your own husband your never gong to have a life! **** that. His plan is to impregnate her that way no other man will ever want her. Most of the time when a guy calls you Mama it is coming from a romantic place. My spirit was completely crushed by the time I called it quits. Not a term of endearment. Your email address will not be published. This son of a bitch could have came in the toilet or on the floor but didnt so I have to live with the biggest mistake i ever made i regret the day i ever met him and if i could take it all back i would. Realistically if i didnt have a daughter with her i wouldnt mind her getting hit by a train. What she said stuck with me. "You don't want to be either, you are not "just" something, you are many great things and you win when you find someone who sees all of that.". I went to the doctor to make sure I was straight. The man enters and doesn't finish inside hence that way you don't get pregnant Not all women are on welfare and can afford birth control so this can and does happen to women all the time. Your are at some point going to have to accept that hes just not the one. I wont get over it. They'll be others." Call him immature, call him a boy, call him selfish and needy or a narcissist. Sorry, but I would not tolerate this. You acting proud. and all I see, is just a lack of self esteem. Secrets don't work, and what needs to happen is that everybody needs to be clear and on the up-and-up. Even if you dont like being called his baby mama, it means he sees you as being in his future and is committed to you. So, do I have "drama" - yup! It's not his wife it's him he's letting it happen ( he's an a**hole), any guy that leaves his family is dirt! Unless you have kids with him already. Why would he buy his ex an apartment? Now if yall became compatible then cool, shit do what you will, dont get wit someone just to have someone until/incase she gets her shit together. Your the one he chose to have kids with. By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. Unless there was not a relationship prior and the woman got pregnant by accident. My boyfriend left me for his baby mama, now he wants me back. Or you can say you would tell his baby mama about your affair with him. He was abusive during my pregnancy. 8 mths later domestic violence charge. And I loved him. Sometimes he would go out with them while I'm at home with our daughter and won't come back till 6 in the morning. In some cases, a guy might start calling you his baby mama because hes trying to drop a subtle (or not so subtle) hint that he wants to have children with you. Some women find being called a baby mama offensive, so if you dont like it you should make that clear to your guy. I'll remove myself because he already blames me he can't be with anyone because I'll always try with him . Because its coming. I can relate! The SSL certificate presented by the server did not pass validation. So that broke the camels back. You sound like you have other problems that need your attention. But most of the time we are healthy. Of course, this could be a sign that he's ready to settle down and take the next step in the relationship, but it could also be a . I feel ya, and the reason he gets mad when your bd calls is because not only is he very territorial over you; but also, if hes not being totally honest with you about whats happening in those convos then he wants to have the upper hand on you when it comes to having someone in the side. He's lying about this.. He made it bed and now has his ex wife living with him and I am sure they're sleeping in the same bed. my boyfriend now pampers me with love, care and attention. I get along with her to show my son the right way to treat females. I fully agree with you.Im 28 weeks pregnant and my baby daddy is seeing this gf which he lies to her all the time.We broke up few weeks ago but we still have sex.In all our chats and phone calls he still tells me he loves me and that what is important. When he goes down on you, insist that he have a few bites of vegetables too. It doesnt matter if you Have 20 kids together if hes with someone and youre still having sex with him youre the side chick. Answer (1 of 5): I would get rid of this guy if I were you,it sounds like he wants to get you pregnant and then split. Blogging about a wide range of topics to help facilitate a better future. All that you wrote went in one ear and came out the next. Baby girl I've been there. Our biggest issue is that he's allergic to my cat. but had you been on birth control he wouldn't have been able to "trap" you as you call it. I like hearing about them. She's been beating him for something like 8 years now. They would call and put the baby on the phone then the baby dont want to talk so they jumps on the phone 1 min after he answers its a game of them wanting to talk to him and uses the child to get to him. telling the truth I am going through the same thing, but mine is multiple. When he throws a new one at me, I tell him "She's not the one. women are spiteful ****. He's using you and you are weak. I'm just a honest guy who doesn't play games and I want a good woman to be with that I can trust. Man its like your the othe man in my situation except I don't talk bad about my sons mother, I disagree with mossgard. She may not be as bad as she's been made out to be. Think about that before you waste your time wondering if he cares for you and what is going on. I tried for six years to be with my sons father. I always give him the benefit of the doubt because i want to trust him but is he really loyal to me? He made little jokes like what if it's a boy ? And miserable, angry, furious, and everything else. Right now we're long distance and planning to hopefully move in together within the next year or two. He cheated and got the girl knocked up. Trust your intuition. If he doesnt stop saying it after youve asked him to, thats when you do have a problem. I never really stayed on the topic because I felt as if it was real he would say more than what he is saying now. When he decided to come back he asked to send him money and I did and he was back the same day . Long story short I have done everything in my power to get this woman back! After all, there is a reason why they had kids with them. Easier said than done. Do you not read between the lines. Thanks, See my bf and I have been dating and his ex/baby mama is about to give birth any day now to his son his son was not planned he was drunk that one night and she cheated on him multiple times but I still feel like the other women even though the only connection to her is his son which I except the baby just not her but I feel like crap because she could give him his first child and I cant Im scared I might lose to him to her In the future even though the only time they talk is about the baby about to be born I just dont know what to do anytime his mom calls she tell him about the baby but dislikes me because she feels Im the barrier between him and his ex getting back together and that I ruined a childs family future and everyone pissed at him for hooking up with me instead of being with her because they want the baby to have both parents and not parents with separate lovers so this entire time I feel like the devil in this situation the other women. Distance is the biggest enemy when in a fight, and has been translated as the widening of a wedge. In fact, he just called me at 3 a.m. (with a female in the back) asking me to save the time and date. They made all these promises to each other. Miss Lucy had a Baby. Its normal for some guys within certain cultures to call their girlfriends their baby mama, but its not a popular saying, to be honest. If he does call you mama because he wants to be more than just friends with you then it would be likely that hed show signs of liking you such as those above when he is around you. My boyfriend cheated on me with his baby mama and now she is pregnant but I still love him HELP!! By This post will help you understand why he called you mama and help you understand why other guys would call you mama in the future. Why would he prioritize an ex' feelings over yours? If I could take her to school with me I would but all the slots were full. So I dont' know, for my child's sake, I just want us to do better as parents. Have a baby mama. I love him and deep down I have a feeling that maybe we will be together in the future. Would any of his family tell you the truth? He would sleep over or I would and when I would confront the idea are we working on something it's like " no why would you think that idk " at the moment he lives with me and he talks to about 3 or 4 girls telling them he want them . I know for sure once he gets a girlfriend he won't spend as much time with his daughter because even if he wants her over he tells me to come too because I watch her while he play video games. There is no such thing as package deal in this situation when she keeps calling for nothing. The entire family is ok with him having a girlfriend because the most important thing for them is to get their citizenship at any cost. Maybe he just heard it and found it amusing, and dedcided to pass it on. When they were together they thought they had something special like all young couples do. Honestly? I will never let my daughter go through that I went through ever .
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